tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8443447842611499359.post7589838828408516565..comments2023-09-13T13:47:47.106+01:00Comments on The Changing Attitude Blog: Lesbian couple in Salisbury Diocese meet prejudice in a Dorset congregationAlexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09163737925142519555noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8443447842611499359.post-74726345507436161862010-05-17T12:22:49.301+01:002010-05-17T12:22:49.301+01:00Colin,
No, I didn't research the story. I reac...Colin,<br />No, I didn't research the story. I reacted to this article and similar ones on other pro-lgbt blogs.<br /><br />It may be perfectly correct that these two women have been discriminated against because of their sexuality.<br />All I'm saying is that the treatment they seem to have received is no different to that which many straight couples receive, and that the story as it stands is therefore not sufficient to determine whether this is a case of prejudice or not. <br /><br />I agree with David, they have not been treated with sensitivity. <br />But maybe they haven't been entirely sensitive either? A lot of elderly people don't like public displays of affection, regardless of the sexuality of the couple displaying it.<br /><br />I think what I'm really saying is that we (and I include myself here) have this tendency to be quick to believe that every negative public response is down to our sexuality and to prejudice against it.<br />It's a little like some black people who cannot accept genuine and just criticism but see it as unjustified racism every time.<br /><br />Sometimes it's not 'coz I is gay.Erika Bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01812376497361267014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8443447842611499359.post-59836131169465281792010-05-15T23:01:21.142+01:002010-05-15T23:01:21.142+01:00I could see how some folks might feel that they ha...I could see how some folks might feel that they have jumped the gun if Kersten's divorce from her husband has not been final. Perhaps that is part of the Rector's reason for asking questions. She is still legally in one relationship, but very publicly in another.<br /><br />It is sad that they feel driven away. As for the spokesman's statement, if these two plus two the children feel that they had to go somewhere else, then it would be questionable as to how compassionately it has been addressed.<br /><br />Another source says that they are now attending a Metropolitan Community Church in the area.Brother Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06333089314994730330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8443447842611499359.post-16039225649566469412010-05-15T22:40:54.868+01:002010-05-15T22:40:54.868+01:00Congratulations for having researched the original...Congratulations for having researched the original news story, Erika, which throws something of a different light on it and from which the Daily Mail story must have been edited down.<br /><br />It is a rather more typical CofE congregation with a split between those who are more open and those of a conservative persuasion, who are perhaps also the type who agree with whatever the vicar says.<br /><br />I'm curious to know which other LGBT groups have become worked up about it - has it become a cause celebre?<br /><br />Where the boundaries should be drawn over degress of affection in church I'm not sure. I know I'm affected by excessive displays of intimate affection in public by straight couples, and that's partly because of my residual internalised homophobia - my fear of the reaction were I to engage in such a public display.Colin Cowardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00030093527945687306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8443447842611499359.post-33424605730365928112010-05-15T21:47:19.924+01:002010-05-15T21:47:19.924+01:00There must be more to it than that for all lgbt gr...There must be more to it than that for all lgbt groups to get so worked up about it, surely?<br />What's wrong with a vicar asking about the divorce procedures of a couple in her congregation? Especially if it is known that they want to enter into a civil partnership?<br /><br />And if 10 or so people from that small church were wiling to attend the couple's civil partnership it's hardly a dyed in the wool homophobic church. Maybe just one where older people find it difficult to cope with anyone displaying a lot of public affection. And where some people are trying to be accepting but are struggling. And where one or two really don't like it.<br />Straight teenagers get told off about this sort of thing all the time.<br /><br />Unless there's a lot more than this story tells, it's just as likely that these two are rather quick at feeling victimised.Erika Bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01812376497361267014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8443447842611499359.post-91297746562601174012010-05-15T12:50:52.636+01:002010-05-15T12:50:52.636+01:00Sad. It is more acceptable to show two men killin...Sad. It is more acceptable to show two men killing each other on television, but not two men kissing. It shows how far from God we really are.Bradleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00878086886816560424noreply@blogger.com